Book review, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

In my previous review, I closed by mentioning the caution of generalizing people based solely on their gender. I acknowledged that, although there are differences between men and women 💑, this does not completely define the complexity of personality and behavior.

In this article, we will explore Seven Golden Rules for Living Together written by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver. This book, with a different approach and less focused on gender labels, takes a more general approach and offers ideas different from many common beliefs.

The book begins with a deep analysis of marriage, unraveling ideas and myths with scientific data. It then ventures into the thorny topic of divorce, offering intriguing predictions, such as the 4 horsemen of the apocalypse: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling, as well as failed repair attempts.

The core of the book covers improvement or, we could say, the rescue of the relationship 👀. It's divided into seven chapters, each guided by a golden rule. It includes revealing anecdotes, challenging exercises, and introspective questionnaires, making it a practical tool for those seeking to strengthen their emotional bonds.

While its primary focus is on marriage, the teachings of this book extend to dating relationships and, surprisingly, to cohabitation in general. Even for those surrounding our emotional circle, the content remains valuable, touching on fundamental aspects of human relationships.

In summary, "Seven Golden Rules for Living Together" challenges gender labels by providing a more general approach to relationships. Beyond preconceived differences, this book invites us to explore the complexities of cohabitation and offers many practical exercises to nurture relationships.